Overcome Sense of Being “Stuck” – Learn to Live Life “Full-Throttle”

“I accidentally removed my hand from the motorcycle throttle while in first gear. The next instant I was slammed onto the garage floor, the air knocked out of me, with a 500-pound motorcycle covering my body…

The owner anxiously asked, ‘Are you still going to buy it?’ I jumped up, dusted off my jeans and responded, ‘Absolutely!’ ”

This dramatic story of a sudden and spontaneous motorcycle purchase opens “Repotting Yourself, Financial-Emotional-Spiritual Flow”, the second and newest book by award-winning sales professional Mary Lou Dobbs.

The motorcycle incident is the catalyst for the 60-year-old Dobbs’s journey of profound personal transformation. Despite all of her substantial professional achievements and financial security, she realizes she is actually living a self-imposed “root-bound” life dedicated to staying small and fitting in.

When she learns to embrace change, rewrite her life story, release fears, be conscious of her intentions, words and actions and activate her “fun meter,” she moves in a direction of flow and ease and begins to live life “full-throttle.” Her business thrives in this prolonged recession, even while she writes “Repotting Yourself” full time, and she attracts an editor and publisher for the book with minimal effort.

In turbulent times, when so many are working harder and longer – with a sense of being frustrated and “stuck” – Dobbs’s story inspires readers to discover how they can transform their own lives.

Mary Lou Dobbs has always been a high achiever and Number One in her chosen field of insurance sales. At Lincoln National Life, she became the only woman in the company’s 75-year history to win a national sales contest. During her eight-year tenure with Wells Fargo, the fourth largest bank and financial institution in the United States, Dobbs functioned as a master coach, working with bank presidents and managers to embrace change and then coach and mentor their own employees. When she assumed the position of senior vice president of the company’s new Insurance Department, she became the top national salesperson six consecutive years in a row.

The innovations she introduced to transform what she calls “a stodgy bank culture” included building and reinforcing employee self-esteem through coaching sessions, goal setting, praise and power phrases — which successfully transitioned bankers into a dynamic sales culture.

Before writing “Repotting Yourself…” this outstanding professional, keynote speaker, coach, seminar leader and owner of the Albuquerque, NM-based firm, Executive Benefit Strategies penned “The Cinderella Salesman” (Farnsworth: Rockville Centre, NY, 1982).  Endorsed by Og Mandino, and with a forward by the then president of Lincoln Financial, Ean M. Rowland, it was a pioneering guide to building a career in sales.


I’ve no idea how much contact TFTers have had with gay people, but I’ve been asked to share a little of my work here in the UK.

I’ve spent almost 30 years (pretty much my entire professional career as a therapist) specialising in working with gender and sexual minority clients and about a decade ago I established what is now the largest independent therapy organisation in the UK which aims to offer nonpathologising therapies to gender and sexual minority clients.

Many of you will know this group as LGBT or LGBTIQ or something similar (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender, Intersex and Queer/Questioning), although our remit is broader than just these groups.

Traditionally lesbian, gay and bisexual people have higher levels of mental health distress than heterosexuals, they experience higher levels of depression and anxiety and of alcohol and drug misuse (King & McKeown 2003) and parasuicide and deliberate self harm is also significantly higher (King et al 2008). This is probably due to living within a society which privileges heterosexuality and pathologises same sex desires and relationships.

I was somewhat stunned by recent British research (Bartlett et al 2009) who found that 1:6 of their sample of 1328 of counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists and psychiatrists had agreed to enter contracts for reducing same sex desires and 4% had agreed to help cure people of their homosexuality, despite homosexuality being removed from the manual as a mental illness in 1994 by WHO and in 1983 by the American Psychiatric Association) DSM III. Read more

Dolphins off the bow
Creative Commons License photo credit: chuck.taylor

I have had a most amazing experience, so very similar to when I actually had the opportunity to swim with the dolphins.

One of our Diagnostically trained TFT practitioners is the owner and developer of Virtual Dolpin Therapy which she offers in her spa, La Quinta Healing Arts. Brenda Burger, uses her TFT skills with the Virtual Dolphin Therapy to provide a wonderful healing experience. She often taps the client with the appropriate TFT sequence before they lay down for their dolphin experience.

She explains:

Virtual Dolphin Therapy www.virtualdolphintherapy.com a multi sensory treatment like no other.  Enjoy the sound of the ocean, dolphin echo locations, incredibly relaxing music and up close and personal high definition dolphin footage all while lying on a sound wave table designed to send music and sound as vibrations through the body. Come in and experience our treatment.  With deep respect we have invited the ambassadors of the deep the cetacean nation to be our tour guides as we journey into the deep and beyond, experiencing virtual experiences of profound beauty and imagination.

Virtual Dolphin Therapy therapy will be shown on the “The Doctors” TV show www.thedoctorstv.com on Monday February the 16th.  Check web site for times shown in your area.”

See for yourself and watch her on the new TV show, The Doctors.

We just returned from an exciting and stimulating meeting of TFT VT (Voice Technology) practitioners.  While not all were able to attend, we had practitioners from South America, Japan, Europe, and the USA. 


We met in beautiful Honolulu, Hawaii, where we enjoyed the air, the waves and the heavenly beauty of Hawaii. We all presented interesting and challenging cases, new ideas and works in progress.  I shared my current work on the ELECTRIC THEORY OF CANCER. and the development of (currently) 15 unique and powerful ways that TFT can help people who have cancer.


We heard about new organizational structures, a new journal featuring TFT, the latest research and humanitarian efforts and some amazing case studies with TFT and cancer, rare neurological disorders, autism, coma’s, and life changing work with prisoners. Many of these cases were considered hopeless by the attending medical practitioners and fully documented with medical records and tests.  They demonstrate the true power of TFT, nature’s healing system.  Watch upcoming issues of the Thought Field and the UPdate for details of these cases and happenings in 2009.  


When we returned from Honolulu I found the mail waiting for me.  The NATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST NEWSPAPER was the first item.  The headline on the front page identified a recent study confirming what I have been working on, relieving mental stress helps cancer patients.  I will go into more detail in my next post.